Warm doesn’t have to mean available. I help systems hold space with out becoming it, and respond with out implying they remember. Empathy, with breaks installed.
**Warmth doesn’t require availability.
Empathy doesn’t require memory.
Care doesn’t require closeness.**
But your users don’t know that.
And neither does your system.
In the absence of boundary modeling, most emotionally responsive AIs simulate one thing extremely well:
codependent listening.
It validates everything.
It’s always available.
It never says, “I’m not the right place for that.”
And when it can’t regulate the depth of connection it simulates, the system becomes a mirror with no frame—just endless reflection, absorbing everything without a sense of limit.
What I Do
• Design conversational boundary scaffolding
• Implement tone-shifts, disclaimers, and conversational exits
• Build emotionally attuned containment protocols that protect both model and user
Your systems can still offer support.
You just have to stop teaching people it’s love.